Emotional Healing - The Basics

Sometimes it's hard to really get a grasp of what emotional healing is and how to do it. So often we suffer from emotional pain and we can end up believing it's because of what we refer to as 'bad' emotions. And if we could just stop feeling those bad emotions, then we'd get relief

Unfortunately, this stands as the complete opposite of emotional healing. In fact, it's what creates emotional pain in the first place. That's because emotional pain comes from shutting off the flow of emotion.

Here's the thing: you only have one pathway for all your emotions to flow through. As you try to shut out the hurt or the anger or the fear, then you've just blocked the flow of all your feelings. And the more you block the flow the less you'll feel of love and joy and wonder and anything else you might want to feel.

It's like a water pipe. The hot and cold water both flow through the same pipe. But you don't want to feel the hot water. It might burn you. So you start to turn off the flow. But the hot and cold water both flow in the same pipe. So as you shut down the hot water, you're also reducing the cold water.

There you have problem number one.

Next, your heart wants to feel, but when you don't let it, that creates the second problem. Your heart has a job to do: namely, to feel all your feelings. By restricting those feelings from coming into your heart, that will create pain.

Why? Because pain comes from a separation from, and a longing for, some thing. In this instance, it comes from the separation of your heart and your feelings. That in itself creates pain.

The third problem involves what happens to those unfelt feelings. They don't just fly off into space. They don't just dissolve into nothingness. Instead they stick around. They end up creating a lot of aggravation and irritation as they surround you.

The fourth problem comes from the fact that when you start blocking the flow of feeling, you create a wall that surrounds your heart. When you close off your heart, what actually happens is that you must use your own thoughts and feelings. Just like when you cut yourself. It's the blood that stops the flow of blood.

But in this case, the clot, or barrier, or wall becomes the very source of pain. It becomes like a little pain factory. A lot of the emotional pain you feel actually comes from this barrier. Because it consists of the thoughts and feelings you didn't want to feel!

The difficulty with emotional healing comes from these four reasons. We believe we should cut off the flow of emotion even more so we can feel better, but that's the very reason the problem exists at all. The answer lies with taking the exact opposite direction.

Let your heart open even more! Whatever comes up - feel it! That's where healing comes from. Or that's the overview, at least. There's many other techniques and secrets you can use to help yourself. For example, we often aren't feeling real emotion, but something else instead. It's a fabrication that consists of artificial feelings and mental constructs.

It's these imaginary feelings that create the pain. Healing emotional pain involves ending these imaginary feelings so you can feel what's real. That's how to end emotional pain. That's how you can start feeling whatever you want to feel.

And there's a wonderful resource to help you. For common-sense and practical techniques to feel better, visit this site on emotional healing.