How To Deal With Death; Experiencing A Life Set Free in Only Ten Days!

Loss is a universal experience. No one goes through this life unhurt by its cruelty and the agony and devastation it can lead to. Though loss is universal in nature, every individual will experience loss differently. For some it could be through the passing of a daughter or son or partner. Some will experience divorce and the splitting of their family and some will have a protracted illness or cancer or being let go from their employment and suffering financial loss. Your loss may arrive by way of a ruined reputation, betrayal by a good friend or rejection by a loved one. No matter how our loss arrives, when we lose something we treasured and of course is important to us, the agony and discomfort is inevitable, changing our life forever.

Having gone through a couple of significant losses in my own life, I know how debilitating loss can be. As I have matured in life and have grown in my knowledge and understanding of my Heavenly Father the realization that pain, heartache and that all my losses can be used by God to bring not only His healing but also my growing in Him. He has expanded the very essence of who I am. Not so I can take great pride in myself am for having overcome so much, for how sad would that be, if that were all I had to show for the losses in my life. God does more than that, He expands our soul, grows, and fortifies us, in the midst of the hurt in our life, its so He can open our eyes to a life that's bigger than us; demonstrating that just because our world is fallen and full of sin and death, He is still desiring to accomplish His will and His perfect plan for each of us.

Romans 8:28:

“We are assured and know that [God being a partner in their labor] all things work together and are [fitting into a plan] for good to and for those who love God and are called according to His purpose.”

Often when people are experiencing their pain because of the loss they have suffered, they reject their pain, even becoming hateful to someone sharing the truth of God's Word with them, believing it callous, insensitive or too preachy. While timing of these sort of things is important, not revealing the truth and great hope of the promises of our Heavenly Father demonstrates a lack of empathy and love, for ultimately nothing apart from God’s power and His love will set someone free to get past and flourish after an overwhelming loss.

It is that disability to get moving with your life that's the topic of what I am penning. There would not be any need to discuss moving on from loss if our loss did not have such incredible force to just keep us where we are, just about frozen in time or worse, living life only in the past, as if today or tomorrow doe not matter.

There is of course, a place and a time to grieve. Lacking the willingness to address your pain and permitting yourself to feel the discomfort and sorrow of it, can bring on all types of additional emotional and physical problems down the road. Your loss and pain needs you to grieve which is healthy, healing your grief needs time. But that time is not intended to last forever. Cherishing memories and special feelings for a lost loved one is by all means crucial. Recollecting special or joyful times in your life are good and healthy. It can even be sadness at times as you're feeling the emptiness or face the changes loss has left you with, is good and acceptable but a life of mourning isn't!

Lamentations 3, talks about there being a season and a time for each thing and for every purpose under heaven, including a time to weep:

A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance.

If we opt to stay in a continual place of hurt and pain, we will lose out on all the wonderful things your Heavenly Father has laid out and planned for you, which may be a tremendous loss, one beyond your comprehension. Our loving God delights in healing and restoration for everyone who calls upon Him. He doesn't intend for us to journey through this life wounded and lacking in our spirit or our body as a result of the pain in our life we have endured. He wants to cure us for our sake and for His glory and purposes. He is your God of a new start in life, wanting to be in your life, revealing His awesome power and showing the world His love for you and me.

Isaiah 43 : 18-19 ( NASB )

Don't call to mind the previous things, or contemplate things of the past. Behold, I'm going to do something new. Now it will spring forth; will you not be aware of it?

He wants us to join Him in the new things He is doing, yet if we decide or refuse not to accept God into our lives, then we are destined to spend the rest of our lives in self-pity and despair.

One of the most negative decisions a person can make after the loss of a loved one particularly that of a partner of a daughter or son or maybe after a divorce - is that they will never let themselves fall in love again. They think to do so will be to allow themselves to be subject that same devastating pain again and what person thinking correctly would do that? But to make a choice like that is to ensure that one is very likely to miss more of the awesome life ahead that your Heavenly Father has planned for you.

In his book, A Grace Disguised; writer Gerald Sittser, who lost not only his wife but also his mother and a daughter in a car crash talks about this very issue.

“The risk of further loss, therefore, poses a dilemma. The problem of choosing to love again is that the choice to love means living under the constant threat of further loss. But the problem of choosing not to love is that the choice to turn from love means imperiling the soul, for the soul thrives in an environment of love. Soul-full people love; soul-less people do not. If people want their soul to grow through loss, whatever the loss is, they must eventually decide to love even more deeply than they did before. They must respond to the loss by embracing love with renewed energy and commitment.”

Expanding our heart to love again after loss can be a mysterious part of the way God uses to heal us. We can refuse His healing if we choose and withdraw to protect ourselves, leading to a diminished heart and a very empty and meaningless way to finish living life. That withdrawal could be justified by saying another loss is too certain to risk it. Yes, another loss may occur but God's love and power is even more certain to cure you. It takes courage for us to live again and it takes His power to love continuously. With The Lord God, it means a new beginning and a reason to move on!

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