She Wants to be Friends after Breaking Up Is that even Possible?

Being friends with your ex is probably the last thing on your mind now that you've been dumped. In fact, it's not even on your radar at the moment. You don't want to be friends. You want your ex back. You don't want half of what you had. You want to have it all back and so much more.

Yet, here she is, right now, asking you to be her friend. How do you respond to that? How do you tell her that friendship is a drop in the bucket compared to what you feel for her? How do you say something like this without running the risk of pushing her even further away?

The fact is you can't be friend with her while you're actively trying to get her back.

But, that doesn't mean you can't use friendship as an opportunity to work your way, slowly but surely, back into her heart. Subtlety is a very handy tool when it comes to matters of the heart. But it's really hard to hold back those emotions and the passion you feel for her while playing the role you've been confident playing for so long – the role of her friend.

There are pros and cons you might want to consider though before you make the decision to accept her offer.

Pros of being her Friend

Many men in your shoes understand that being her friend allows you to show her exactly how good you are together. You believe that when she sees what she has to lose without you in her life, she just might come to value what you had and want to get it back.

Second, it allows you to know what's going on in her life. You're there to know if there's another man on the horizon or some other problem that may hamper your goal of ultimately getting your girlfriend back.

Finally, being her friend is a role you're comfortable playing. You've considered her your best friend the entire time you were dating. You may even be convinced that having her in your life in this capacity is better than not having her in your life at all.

Cons of being her Friend

The cons are significant and shouldn't be overlooked. First, there is the scarcity principle. People don't value what's in abundant supply. If she's getting all the rewards of your relationship – in the form of your physical and emotional support whenever she needs it – then there's nothing for her to really miss. She's getting all the rewards with none of the work that goes along with a committed relationship.

Second, you deserve better! You deserve to have what you want from the relationship and not to sit in the corner hoping for the crumbs of friendship. It's up to you to decide whether friendship is enough for you but the odds are good it won't be for long.

Finally, do you really want to put yourself through that kind of pain? It's one thing to mourn the loss of your relationship from a distance. It's another thing to be up close and personal with the object of your pain day after day while trying to pretend that your world isn't in some sort of tailspin.

Wouldn't it be better if you could just figure out how to get your ex back and put all this 'friendship' business to rest once and for all? Follow the link above and you'll get step by step instructions on how to do just that.