What Really Had To Do To Save My Marriage Today

My husband and I are really soul mates. We adored each other right from the minute we first met at a school dance. We both went home that particular night (little did we know) and shared with our parents that tonight we actually met the person we were going to marry. Directly after we got hitched, we moved with my parents in order to look for work and start our new lives. It was exciting, but we didn't have a place of our own to live immediately.

My father talked us into living together with them for a while until we were money wise sound enough to get our own house. Little did we know, a month after moving into the new house along with them, my father would leave my very own mother, leaving us to look after my legally blind mother and my younger brother. We took over for paying for the bills and keeping things going in the proper direction, along with making use of my mother's disability checks.

Technically, the house was still my mothers, since it was in her name, and most of the possessions there were hers except for what we had in our very own bedroom. We lived by her rules of the house even now, just as I consistently did growing up as a young child. Call when you are on the way home, tell me your plans, when are you coming and going, share your financials….. Really still a child in a mother's house.

We paid our share of the home payment, bills, food items, etc and for some time it was working. We had our arguments and such, nonetheless mainly everything went along well. We were really just frustrated we still had all of our possessions in one bedroom, were still living by my mother's rules of the home, and still hadn't moved ahead with a life of our own.

At the 10 year marker it became apparent that we were actually slipping away from each other. My husband and I were fighting more, which quickly lead to more fighting with my very own mother, and typically the question came up whether I loved him more than my family. In one particular disagreement, he told me that I would need to make a choice: my very own mother or him. As expected, later in conversation, my mother gave me the same ultimatum.

I searched my very own heart and did a save my marriage today review. Despite the fact that I would always love my mother and always wished to be close to her, it was becoming more and more clear that we could not share a house living the way we did. I simply had to tell her that we could not live together any longer to save my marriage. By this time, my parents had been dating once again for quite a little while and they had decided to get remarried, so it wasn't like she didn't have somewhere else to go.

I simply told her that my husband is my future and the rest of my life. Even though she will always be my mother and an important part of my life, I want to move forward with my life with my husband by my side. In order to do this, we needed our own place, build our very own life, and do it on our very own.

I still sincerely loved her and I didn't want to mess up our relationship by continuously fighting. Understanding this was the starting point towards years of joy and happiness to come. We went our different ways with our living arrangements, but yet we became closer as a family simply because we were living separately. My hubby and I became so much closer than ever and found our initial love growing with our completely new life together. At the end of the day, we actually had to get rid of my very own mom to save my marriage today review.