What to Do If He Is Being Unfaithful and Heal Your Broken Heart

They smile as they turn away quickly after you witness him catching her eye. You’ve watched the progression of their "crush" with the long periods of time that they are both to be "missing" from a party and they're seemingly innocent flirting and it is breaking your heart. She’s supposed to be your friend and he’s your husband. Can you forgive him for having an adulterous relationship and heal your broken heart?

When we find out our partner has been cheating on us, the first emotions we experience are hurt and anger. Is there any way to repair the relationship, stop the affair and get past all the hurt and anger? Are you still in love with him is one of the questions you must ask yourself and the other is if the relationship even worth repairing.

If you want to repair your relationship then one of the first things you need to do put yourself in his shoes, why is he attracted to her? Is he attracted to other women because there is something absent from your relationship? Usually if one partner cheats it is due to the fault of both parties and either their relationship has become stale or one of you (or both) is taking the other for granted. Even if you've been in a relationship for a long time you still need to make your partner feels special. A relationship need to be constantly worked at and maintained in order for it to be successful.

Due to the attention that people get from the opposite sex and how good it makes them feel about themselves is why they have affairs. If out of the blue some great looking guy is flirting with you, imagine how you would feel after years of being in a steady relationship. Suddenly you feel sexy and even a bit naughty, all because he flirted with you and you haven’t felt these things in a long time.

For anyone to take it further than some innocent flirting is no excuse. A heart to heart talk with your partner is what this means you need to have. You need to ask him what his plans are once you have made it clear to him that you know what is going on. Do they love each other? Is he still in love with you? Tell him you realize that there are things in the relationship that you need to work on like not taking him for granted.

If you both decide to work it out and are willing to give 100%, be aware that it will be a rough road. Teaching you to communicated properly to each other and act as a mediator so you both can get your feelings out is what a marriage counselor can do for you, so try and see one if you can. If you can't see a counselor then you both have to be respectful when the other is trying to tell you how they feel.

Also, one of the most important things you need to remember is, if you decide to forgive him, you absolutely CAN NOT throw the affair back in his face. That will not help each other build up the trust in one another.

If you find that you are having trouble forgiving him and you still cannot trust him, you may have to move on to heal your broken heart.