Why Are You Still Alone? The Top 3 Reason Why and How to Heal Your Broken Heart

Your friends are always telling you that you are good looking, have a great personality and have so much to offer someone, but you’re thinking "If I'm so great then why am I still alone on a Friday night trying to mend my broken heart?"

If you are prepared to be honest with yourself, the answer may be nearer than you think. You are still single and you are an awesome catch so not all the “good ones” are taken even if most of the time we are walking around in denial and telling ourselves the exact opposite!

Reason #1 – You never seem to attract the right people.

You need to make a list of what you want in a partner and a list of the people you are attracted to, how do they compare? My friend, Belle, for instance, is a beautiful girl and has no trouble getting a date, but her relationships never last more then a few months, why? Belle needs that immediate desirability or she will not give the guy an opportunity. Belle’s attractions are based entirely on sexual attraction and have nothing to do with the guy. With a relationship based on sexual attraction, how do you build a long-term relationship out of it?

Some couples can grow from a sexual relationship to a more meaningful relationship, but it really depends on the people. Unfortunately for Belle, these guys she is attracted to are not the kind of guys that want to settle down, or are the type that will stay faithful. The guys she dated and her list were very different and this is why she always ends up with a broken heart.

What does your list look like? Does the person you want to be with the same person you are attracted to?

Reason #2 – Looking for love in all the wrong places.

How difficult it is to meet a terrific guy is all I continually hear from my friends. Awkwardly, they tell me … a bar when I ask them where they are looking. Anyone who has met someone at a bar has not had a permanent relationship, at least I haven’t.

While there is always a chance that you could meet someone great at a bar, you'd probably have a better chance to meet someone at a coffee shop, a bookstore or even a laundromat. One of my friends met her husband at the bus stop, since they were both there everyday at the same time they struck up a conversation and got to know each other. After a few weeks they finally went on a date. They would not have even made an effort to get to know each on the same intensity as they did at the bus stop if instead they had met at a bar.

Meeting Mr. Right could be as easy as hanging out in some of your favorite places, what are they?

Reason #3 - You listen to your friends and not your gut.

Sometimes what our friends’ think what is best for us and what we believe is best for ourselves is not always the same. I’ll never forget the night my girlfriend introduce her new boyfriend, whom she has been dating for awhile, to her friends.

Right from the get go it was shaky and got totally out of hand as her new boyfriend got drunk. My friend squirmed in her seat as he kept spilling his drink everywhere and got louder and louder. He did not make a good first impression.

"That guy is an idiot and you deserve much better than that!” I told her the next day. She continued to see him and didn’t give into peer pressure as I know I wasn't the only one who told her to dump him.

She ignored me and the others and I am so happy she did because he ended up being an absolutely amazing guy! That night he had been so nervous about meeting all of her friends, he drank too much and ended up acting like a total jerk.

So do you desert potentially wonderful guys by listening to your friends?

The reason you are still alone, could the answer right in front of you? The changes that you need to make, do you now know? So you are not home alone on a Friday night, wondering to yourself "How can I mend my broken heart?” can you make the necessary changes? By submitting your comments you can let me know if there is another reason or two I may have missed.