Ten year anniversaries of your birth date are always exciting and are a definite cause for celebration!

For some, this can be a great time for reflection and to look back at what you have achieved and how you have enjoyed your life so far. For others, reaching such a milestone can be a bit troubling, as you may fret whether you have really achieved enough and where you might be in another ten years.

We should all reflect on our stage in life, where we are personally, financially and emotionally. It's also quite common for a woman, busy raising a family, to think about her sexual appeal and its effectiveness when she gets to the big 40.

It's very true to say that we all become more philosophical as we age. This is a consequence of being able to reflect on many of life's rich experiences and in many cases knowing how to put these experiences into practice. Each decade milestone will find us in a very different place in our book of life and we will look back on our memories in a different way and look forward to what we have ahead of us with a fresh perspective. As our interpretations change as we age, when you get to 40 you will definitely look at things in a different light as compared to ten years previously.

Those of us who have experienced and loved being a 40-year-old mum, know that our sexuality owes a lot to our maturity, from an emotional and mental perspective. We don't feel insecure and have a certain amount of natural dignity which comes with our position.

Whenever problems arise, we rely on our sassy approach to dealing with these situations, breezing through such problems with apparent ease and feeling good about it while we do!

Often times, professional coaching is a marvellous boost for mums, whatever page of life they find themselves on and especially if they find an upcoming milestone to be challenging. The word “sexy” means different things to different people and will certainly have its own interpretation in your eyes.

Physically you will have a different appearance of course, but with your maturity you need to learn to trust yourself to make the most of your looks every day. Take a leaf from the page of those old screen heroines and present your best side to whatever camera approaches you. As each year goes by, you will become more mentally and emotionally secure and as a consequence, much sexier.

You have achieved a lot so far and should be proud of it and fully secure. Your children are a great reflection of you and you should be proud or both them and your partner. Remember that life is only really enjoyable when you truly love yourself, first and foremost. Seek out online life coaching experts if you feel a little overwhelmed when you are approaching or get to those special milestones that everyone makes such a big deal about!

Remember that life begins at 40 and when coaching for women in this position I often remind them that the biggest favour they can do themselves is to think and act "young." Ask yourself this question - if you didn't know what your actual age was, how old would you think you were? Hopefully the answer to this question isn't "90"! Fabulous 40 mum, go and get them!

Amanda Alexander is the Director of Coaching Mums and a widely renowned ICF-accredited coach who delivers professional coaching programmes to working moms across the globe who long for more time, balance and fulfilment in their busy lives. Download our free eBook especially for working mums with 5 easy ways to achieve balance.