So frequently we come our relationship like it is a business transaction instead of a love affair. Doesn’t it look like every couple you meet there is always one spouse that does more work in the relationship?
Whoever concluded that life is a 50-50 proposition? Some give more than others. One partner may have to take more. One of the basic tenants of life is that there will always be inequities in life. We must realize that there is never any true balance.
A marriage does not function well if each party is only concerned about their own well being. They have to draw a common way and sacrifice their own hobbies, interests, and many other interests. It surprises so many people how much must be given for a relationship to work out right.
It is good to remember that the quotes about love that we all read needs to be an inspiration and not a judgment. Everyone wants a love that lasts like we read about in the quotes on love But that love is one that is certainly acquired and not just handed to us.
One point that cannot be stressed enough is that we are all different. Some spouses are those that give quite easily. In any relationship, such people will always give without any second thought. But they must be careful because if they are not married to a giver they could end up being used in a marriage relationship. Slowly the resentment may develop. I am only giving since years. I am not getting anything in return. Why am I being demanded to give again and again.
Each person has their own passions. What about that? And yet the marriage must be a place of sacrifice. We must all look to be about each others needs. Each person needs to be respected. We must keep in mind that an individuals needs must be met if there is to be happiness. Marriages in which one person is only a taker will soon be headed for the divorce court. If you are a giver, take note of your mates behavior.
We all need to feel loved and appreciated and cherished. Yet each human must also feel the act of giving our love away. We must play the tender balancing act of giving away as much love a we receive. Because if there is an imbalance in that we will feel cheated.
This one single change in your outlook towards your relationship can transform the hidden resentment that result in nagging, negativity, and verbal putdowns into a deep satisfaction that leads to overt affection, positive support, and mutual respect.