If you’re making plans to get your ex back, you probably have a long list of things you’re willing to do to make that happen. You may also have a short list, at least mentally, of things you’re not quite willing to do to get your ex back. The problem is that you’re convinced it’s all about what you do and that the sense of urgency is great.
Taking action is great and will ultimately be necessary if you really do want to get your ex back. The problem is that many people fail to realize that PATIENCE is absolutely critical if you want to save your relationship at this stage of the game.
Patience is the missing ingredient in the plans most people make to get their exes back. It is necessary because there is a certain amount of planning that is required to get real and lasting results. Those plans aren’t easy to make in the heart of the moment or when your heart is in serious crisis mode.
That’s the biggest problem that most people in your situation must overcome – the overwhelming panic that seems to overtake them as their hearts are breaking and their dreams are going up in smoke. The breakup doesn’t have to be the end for the two of you. If you play your cards right and practice a fair amount of patience now you may one day come to realize that the breakup was the beginning of the best things yet to come for your relationship.
Of course, having patience alone isn’t enough to get your ex back but it’s the perfect start and a great way to avoid doing things that impair your ability to win the heart of your ex all over again. It’s what you do during the time when you’re practicing that patience that really matters. Use that time wisely so that your patience will be rewarded in the way you have in mind.
What’s the first thing you should do?
AGREE with your ex that breaking up is the best option.
Shocking! Isn’t it?
It also happens to be extremely effective. You see, it’s not just a shock to read about it here. It’s a REAL shock to your ex when you say: ‘Hey, I agree! Breaking up really is the best thing for us.’
Once your ex gets over the shock of you agreeing with him or her there’s going to be a little pinprick of a sting that you didn’t fight, that you aren’t going to fight – at least as far as he or she knows.
Beyond that, there’s the sudden sense of sadness that you did NOT argue to save the relationship. Your ex is going to want to know what you thought was wrong with the relationship. It’s going to eat away and keep you on your ex’s mind even when you’re not in his or her presence.
The key is to bide your time and use it productively while your ex is working up the nerve to make the first move. What should you do during this time? Watch this FREE video to find out a few things you can do to improve the odds that you will get your ex back in the end.