If you’re trying to get your ex back you probably already know that making contact with them isn’t easy. A lot of people get this wrong and end up scaring their ex away. You need to be subtle in your initial approach to them. Before you make contact them it would be best if you give them space for a few weeks.
This will hopefully be enough time for any ghosts and animosity between the two of you to pass over. A simple email or text message is enough when the time comes to contact them, you don’t want to over do it. I think a text message would be better because emails can be easily missed. Most people check their phone much more often that their emails and this is why a text message is better.
Just ask them how they are in the message, keep it simple and don’t put any pressure on them. If they reply then great, just see how things go and then eventually ask them if they would like to meet up for a catch up chat. If they don’t answer then leave it for a few days and then send them another message. If you send too many messages you will look needy and this isn’t attractive.
Some people have a knee jerk reaction when they don’t get a response within the first hour and send a load more messages. One message is sufficient to let your ex know that you want to speak to them again. If they find lots of messages from you it tells them you’re desperate.
If a week goes by and you still hear nothing then the best course of action would be to call your ex. This is your last shot at making contact with them. If you don’t get hold of them and they don’t call back then you should take the hint that they’re avoiding you and move on gracefully. Not every relationship can be saved and while it’s not a nice to go through it’s something that you will just have to learn to live with.